MC: [Graeme Richards]
"How can you love yourself when you’ve started to believe that you’re ugly and a failure?"
Well, fortunately it is not a fact; it’s only your belief. Beliefs can change.
Belief is like this—and I used to give this analogy. If I’m sitting with somebody, I can say, “Make believe there is a cow here. No harm done; just make believe there’s a cow here—and this cow gives a lot of milk. Just believe that, okay?”
No harm, right? [MC: Right.] But if I’m having tea, real tea, and I want some milk, rest assured this make-believe cow cannot give to my real tea. Now if I’m having make-believe tea, this make-believe cow can give a little bit of its milk for my make-believe tea. But if I’m having real tea, it doesn’t work.
There is another phase after “believing,” and that phase is called “knowing.” It’s living in reality, not just—because a lot of people say to me, when I talk about what I talk about, “Oh, come on; be real.” And the thing is, with all their fear, they’re actually the ones living in fiction. They’re the ones who are living in fiction.
You can believe anything you want, but what is the reality? What is the reality? The reality is that darkness is never far from light.
Last time you flipped on a switch and turned on a light in a dark room, how long did it take for that darkness to disappear? You turned on the light bulb, and it’s just like, djjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjjj, like, you know, a drain? Or like a toilet flushing, tschhhhhhhhh? No! Voom? Boomf.
Darkness is never far away from light; light is never far away from darkness. Joy is never far away from sadness, and sadness is never far away from joy. They ride together.
When you go into a bathroom and you lock the door for privacy, do you think it’s private? No, your anger, your fear, your doubt have come with you. Even though you book only one seat for yourself on a bus or an airplane, your anger, your fear, your doubt, they’re always there. Always, always!
But, so is kindness, so is understanding, so is gratitude. These things are also there, because they are the other side of the coin.
And you need to know this—that if you have only experienced your ugliness, then you haven’t flipped the coin. You need to flip the coin. Because the other side of that coin is incredible beauty.
And what is the beauty? What is the beauty? Somebody who is symmetrically shaped? A movie star? What is the beauty? Because, you know the reality of it is, how many movie stars that are drop-dead gorgeous, spend hours sometimes looking at themselves in the mirror, going, “Oh my God. Am I? Am I?”
You are the beholder. If you feel in you—and see, I keep going back to this, and this is a great question, because this gives me more ammunition for my book—that’s why you need to know yourself!
Socrates said, “Know thyself.” You need to know yourself. Why do you need to know yourself? Because that is when you will be able to experience the true beauty that you are. That’s why you need to know yourself.
There’s a billion reasons, I think, 7.5 billion reasons on the face of this earth of why you should know yourself. Because if each one did, I think we would have a very different situation in this world; if the beauty that you conceive in your mind is beauty, that is different than you truly are.
See with the eyes. See the wonderment. The children—and, gorgeous! They look at something incredible, and they’re in awe! In awe!
And of course, the stupid parent going, “That’s the moon.” They could care less. They fell in love with the moon before the stupid dad said—or stupid mom said—“That’s the moon.” They saw the moon that doesn’t have a name, and they loved it. That’s beauty—and you have that beauty.
Whatever other people tell you, you are worse than them, because you constantly sit there and tell yourself, “I’m not beautiful; I’m not beautiful; I’m not....”
This beauty will be gone one day. The same thing that people come and kiss, they will be like, “Huh-huh, no way.”
So, it’s not here—this is not the “beauty” part. The beauty part is here, in your heart, in yourself.
- Prem Rawat
So, how do I understand “hope” in my life? How do I realize hope? Very easy, very simple. There are four points—and of course, the first point is, “Know thyself; that’ll bring you peace.” “Know thyself” will bring you peace. And the other three points will improve the quality of your life, will bring you happiness.
So, again, the first point is, “Know yourself.” Second point is, “Have gratitude in your life.” Third point, “Don’t care about what other people think of you.”
So, “My God!” you know? The thing is, what you have to realize—that person isn’t thinking about you. You know what they’re thinking about? They’re thinking about what other people think about them.
They’re not thinking about you; it’s just that you, you are caught up in this little silly game of thinking about, “Oh, what’s that person thinking about me?” They don’t care. They really could care less! But we create this whole thing.
So, anyways—and then the fourth thing: “Every time you fail, don’t accept failure.” This is about hope! And people look at me like, “Huh? Every time I fail, don’t accept failure? I, I’ve been accepting failure all my life. How can I not accept failure?”
The thing is, when you are a baby learning how to walk, you failed many, many times. Because here is a peculiar situation. You, you want to learn how to walk! Obviously, you can’t read. And you like your mother’s voice but don’t understand really what she’s saying....
And here you are. You have to accomplish what you have never done before. And no amount of training can be given to you. You cannot go onto your iPad, onto YouTube, and try to write in a URL “teach me how to walk,” because you don’t know how to type yet.
And it’s just up to you. So you get up—shaky, very shaky because your legs are not—the muscles aren’t built up enough to let you walk. And you get up, and you’re shaky, and you try to take the step, and you fall down. And if that was you today, you would go, “I tried. I failed? I don’t want to talk about it.”
Right? Complete shut-down. “Failure accepted”: boom! Door closed! “Don’t remind me of it. It’s a bad day. It was a terrible day. I don’t want to remember this day. I failed.”
No! Just because you wouldn’t accept failure, you saw hope. And you got up, and you tried again.
But you still didn’t.... And you failed. But you still didn’t accept failure. What you were left with—when you don’t accept failure, what are you left with? You’re left with hope!
And all this time, because you kept accepting hope and rejecting failure.... As soon as you take away “failure” from “fail,” “fail” doesn’t carry that much power anymore. But if you have “failure” coupled with “fail,” ooooh, that’s everything. That’s everything!
But you will fail, because there isn’t an instruction manual for everything in this life. There will be things happening to you and around you that you will face, that you have never come across. And whether it is in a hurry that you make those decisions, or unknowingly make those decisions, you may make a decision that is wrong and you fail....
And you fail—and it’s okay. Nothing in the world changes; nothing in the world says, “Uh-uh, uh-uh, uh-uh-uh!” No! Nothing changes; get up and move! Up to you—or stay there. Up to you.
- Prem Rawat
Everybody on the face of this earth has a reason why there is not peace. I think it takes the same amount of brain-horsepower to figure out why there can’t be peace, as to figure out a way that there can be peace.
I invite everybody on the face of this earth to change their thinking habit from going, “Not possible,” to, “Yes, how it can be.” Could you do that?
People will—I’m sure some of you are sitting here, “Well, no, no, those guys won’t do it, so why should I do it?” No! Not come up with a reason for “no.” Come up with a reason for “yes,” what is possible.
When the moon mission was afoot, there were a lot of scientists who said, “There is no way man can go on the moon.” That became a reality, not because of those people who said “it cannot be done,” but because of those people who said “it can be done.” And the same thing has to happen for peace.
Peace is required not only—and will be appreciated, not only by the patients, not only by the doctors, not only by your neighbor, not only by your family....
Because you are not alone; you are shared by many. You are shared by many. You affect your wife. You affect your children. You affect your colleagues. You affect the person who is next to you stuck in the traffic jam. You affect the police officer for whom you didn’t stop. You affect so many people during the day, (and night, for that matter). You don’t even realize!
You are constantly, constantly affecting somebody, and somebody, and somebody, and somebody, and somebody. And when you are not in peace, that’s how many times all those things that are the absence of peace are multiplied.
When you are not in peace, your wife may not be in peace; your children may not end up in peace. Her father may not end up in peace, all because of you. Your neighbor! Your dog!
But when you are in peace, ah!—and something beautiful happens. When you are in peace, you have the ability to take someone who is feeling pain and anger, and bring them a little comfort.
But instead I go, because I think that there is a possibility—that peace lies inside of you. I have heard this by—many, many, many before me have said exactly the same thing: “Peace that you’re looking for is inside of you,” and I know that that is true. Now you need to experience that too.
– Prem Rawat
Whenever there was prosperity without peace, that prosperity didn’t last very long. You want prosperity? I know everybody wants prosperity. But true prosperity will never come without true peace.
And that’s why peace is important for all of us on this planet, not just in Colombia. On this planet, we are killing each other. We’re destroying each other. And we need to understand the value of human life, not the value of some ideas, some philosophies, but the idea of what truly a human being is.
– Prem Rawat
Here it is. This is the opportunity. You come—automatic: here you are. Basics are provided. And you’re going to go—automatic. And to make it clear, you don’t know when. Because if you knew, you would sit there and lament that day. I mean, talk about waste of life!
You know, we have had these guys come occasionally on the face of this earth, and in no uncertain terms say exactly that: “You want to get the most out of it; it’s not happening again!”
And that what’s here is simply divine, the only place where you can truly understand the manifestation of that Divine. You can look at the stars, and you can be in awe. Be in awe, “Wow.” That there is silence! And what is silence? Silence is the only thing—the true silence, the inner silence—is the call of the Divine.
Not words—but the call of the Divine. To hear that and to understand something—not something complicated but something very simple. And what is that? What is that? That one shortest, most complete sentence in the English language. You know what that is? “I am. I am.”
Until, in your life, that little sentence, until that starts to mean something, forget it. Can you walk the life without the ideas? Can you walk the life without the ideas? Can you wake up in the morning and say, “I am content knowing I am?”
– Prem Rawat
Religion has its place. Absolutely, religion has its place, and politics has its place. But so does humanity. You are human, first. If you lose your humanity, you lose everything. Then you become poor; then you become weak.
But so far that, on the face of this earth, we do not lose our humanity, we will be strong enough to help each other.
– Prem Rawat